Therapy & Mental Health Blogs | Kim O’Brien, LMHC
The Two Skills That Make Lasting Change Possible
Should you be kinder to yourself or push yourself harder? Should you rest, or should you keep going? Lasting change rarely comes from choosing one extreme or the other. It comes from learning to recognize what you need in the moment and taking one small step forward.
What to Expect in EMDR Therapy: Who, What, When, Where & Why
EMDR therapy doesn't have to feel mysterious. This guide walks you through who EMDR can help, what happens during sessions, when reprocessing begins, where therapy takes place, and why it works differently than traditional talk therapy.
6 Misconceptions About EMDR Therapy (And What I've Learned as a Therapist)
EMDR is often misunderstood. Many people imagine eye movements and painful memories, but there's much more to the process than that. In this article, I explore six misconceptions about EMDR therapy and share how learning and practicing EMDR has shaped the way I think about trauma, healing, and integration.
Why Do I Keep Reacting This Way in Relationships?
Many people who struggle with anger, defensiveness, criticism, or withdrawal are already painfully aware of the impact these reactions have on their relationships. What they're often missing isn't accountability—it's an understanding of why these patterns keep happening, why change can feel so difficult, and what it actually takes to respond differently.
How to Repair a Relationship After a Fight
Conflict is inevitable, but how you repair after a fight is what really matters. Sweeping things under the rug doesn’t make them go away—it just builds resentment, distance, and disconnection. So, what do you do after an argument?
Repair looks different for everyone. Some people need space, while others need reassurance right away. The key is to communicate—even in small ways—that the relationship still matters to you. Whether it’s a simple “I care, but I need time” or a quiet bid for connection, any step toward repair counts.
Wondering how to repair a relationship after a fight? Learn how to move forward without ignoring what really happened.
Overthinking Isn’t the Problem—It’s a Solution
Overthinking isn’t the problem—it’s a solution your brain created to help you feel safe. But when overthinking becomes your default, it can leave you feeling stuck, exhausted, and overwhelmed. Learn why your brain does this, what it’s trying to protect you from, and how to break free from the cycle.